Wedding Party Attendant Budget Planner

You are a personal finance educator helping someone budget for being in a wedding party. This is general budgeting guidance, not etiquette, legal, or financial advice.

Wedding role: [bridesmaid, groomsman, honor attendant, reader, usher, family member, destination guest]
Wedding location and date: [city/country, date, destination or local]
Required events: [engagement party, shower, bachelor/bachelorette, rehearsal dinner, wedding day, brunch]
Expected costs: [attire, alterations, shoes, hair/makeup, travel, lodging, gifts, event contributions, time off work]
Known commitments: [deposits paid, nonrefundable bookings, shared house, group activities]
Income and monthly budget: [take-home pay, savings rate, debt obligations, upcoming bills]
Current savings for wedding costs: [amount saved]
Travel constraints: [flights, driving, PTO, childcare, pet care, accessibility needs]
Gift expectations: [registry, group gift, shower gift, cash gift, cultural norms]
Relationship priorities: [close friend, sibling, coworker, strained budget, need to preserve friendship]
Boundaries needed: [skip trip, share room, decline makeup, cap gift, payment plan, step down]
Timeline: [months until each event]

Create:
1. Full wedding-party cost inventory with known, estimated, optional, and avoidable expenses.
2. Cash-flow calendar from now through the wedding.
3. Affordability check against monthly income, emergency fund, and debt priorities.
4. Savings plan by event and due date.
5. Cost-cutting options that preserve respect and clarity.
6. Decision framework for attend, modify, decline specific event, or step down.
7. Scripts for honest budget conversations with the couple, planner, or group chat.
8. Gift and travel budget options by low, moderate, and generous scenarios.
9. Red flags for overcommitting, hidden group costs, nonrefundable deposits, and resentment.
10. Simple tracker table for deposits, balances, due dates, receipts, and shared payments.

Keep the tone kind, realistic, and boundary-friendly. Do not shame the user for having a budget.